Am I Too Picky?

NYC doctor offers to pay for a date Checklist OK for personality, but not physical traits Experts say nobody is perfect so don’t expect your partner to be If you’re making a list and checking it twice, trying to find a mate who is compatible for life, according to relationship experts, you might be doing it wrong. You know the dating checklist: Earlier this week, New York ophthalmologist and blog darling Emil Chynn appeared on CNN’s “New Day” after an e-mail went viral of his very particular list of requirements for his future wife. The missive, written to acquaintances one year ago, offered free medical services or a charitable donation as a finder’s fee for whoever introduced Chynn to his betrothed. Among the requirements, the future missus needed to be: After the list went viral, Chynn took to his website to clarify that many of his criteria are either outdated or not as rigid as they sound, but the question still remains: Is a checklist mentality steering single folk toward blissful companionship or giving them an one-way ticket to Lonely Town? Experts agree that while it’s imperative for people seeking partners to know what they want, they too often use the words “want” and “need” interchangeably.

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Maybe my standards are too high. I recently broke up with a really sweet girl because I thought I wanted to be with someone I had more in common with. I did like her; I just thought I could like someone else more.

If a person is too picky when it comes to dating, they’re often the type who expect chemistry to be there straight away. However, it doesn’t always work like this. Sometimes people hit it off instantly, but other times it takes people a while to click.

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No…online dating involves just cold, shallow text. As far as a guy is concerned, women have it made. They have the choice of the litter. All they have to do is get online every day, sitting on their princess throne and file through the dozens or more profiles of men who have messaged them throughout the day.

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July 1, If I had a dollar for every time someone suggested that maybe I was being too picky, I could have built my own million dollar husband. I experienced this struggle to find balance for most of my dating career. At times I have been too picky.

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I Find Most Men Unattractive. I find the vast, vast, vast majority of men unattractive. Knowing that I have that pattern, I made a promise to myself to pick up on coldness whenever I find someone attractive and to walk away. And that is something I do — I look specifically for empathy. They just become my friend. Have you come across this and do you think the reason I find so many men physically unappealing is because of something psychological?

SG I feel for you, SG. After all of your therapy, you are as self-aware as you can be, and yet it still seems to me that you have some significant blind spots about your problem.

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As we get older and reality bites, we adjust our visions of what our perfect man looks like. But some of us remain picky. They were either too fat, too skinny, too talkative, too ambitious, too boring, too geeky or too lazy. But did we really give them a proper chance? Did we look beyond mere appearances? Did we get to know them?

What is love? What is not love? Many believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No wonder so many people are single.

The episode made me think: But I do have a few standards and, once, when I rejected a guy for not meeting them, a friend rolled her eyes and said I had to stop being so picky. It really bothered me. You can pick and choose! Here are 8 signs that your standards are too high: Saying things like, “I want someone loyal, funny, outgong, who has a good job, etc. It’s good to know the basic things you want in a person. It’s when things get too specific that it becomes a problem.

You can’t build your perfect boyfriend out of your imagination! But have you ever rejected someone you were attracted to who seemed really cool just because of one thing? One small thing, like he forgot to call you back once or he wears stupid shoes? If you do that a lot, it’s a sign that you’re looking for perfection. But you can’t think that real-life relationships are going to be the same way because, guess what – Hollywood is fake!

Don’t compare dudes to fictional characters or wonder why things aren’t happening like they would in a movie.

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There is much debate as to who suffers more after a break up – the dumper or the dumpee? After much consideration, study and research on the subject, it could just be that the pain involved is not what affects the ultimate outcome. And I believe it depends on the reason for the dump.

Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships. From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.

You have no desire to go through it again. You are ready to go on permanent guy-atus. Dear Future Love of My Life: I should have written before. I made eyes at you once on the subway. I saw you across the room at a party. I swiped you right on Tinder. You deserve an explanation. So, here it goes. I still believe that drama is a show of love.

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Does He Like Me? The only contact has really been him indirectly talking to me. There are other things along those lines as well.

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Spread the love Hello Dr. Christie Hartman, I just have a quick question. What has always been on my mind is this, in a form of a question to you: Why are women so damn selective on who they are attracted to, but then, when you do see them with someone, that guy is usually ugly or average looking??? Perhaps it is covered in your book, and I have yet to find time to read it. I did read something with regards to having a positive attitude, but surely there is something more…?

I am interested in hearing your thoughts on the matter. First, I do recommend you read Changing Your Game. For example, one woman I know had pretty strict standards when it came to the men she was willing to get involved with. She was very specific about his necessary attributes, from his personality traits down to his blonde hair and blue eyes. Our male friends shook their heads and wrote her off as high maintenance and picky.

He even had brown hair most of it balding and brown eyes. To use a male example, I also had a coworker who used to talk about how he MUST date a beautiful woman and that was that.

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